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While evaluating Match.com pages recently, I happened to be struck by exactly just how men that are many just explain on their own as “adventurous,” but they are searching for ladies who will also be adventurous.

I’m maybe maybe not adventurous. Not really only a little.

I don’t want up to now Indiana Jones! The final thing we require is a person whom likes to skydive and bungee jump and happen to be far-flung places.

I simply want some body i could read during intercourse with.

So just why are so numerous males my age looking for adventurous females? All things considered, they are males within their 60s. Just how much real adventure could any one of them realistically manage?

This will depend, in component, as to how you determine “adventurous.”

It’s a term with a range that is wide of definitions — such a thing from being desperate to try that new Indonesian restaurant to being desperate to try paragliding over North Korea.

Within my age, getting down the block on an icy time without dropping could possibly be considered an adventure.

Once I asked my Facebook buddies about this, these were because confused (and sarcastic) when I had been.

“Does attempting a brand that is new of potato chips count as adventurous? In that case, I’m in.”

“I’m guessing that for a number of guys, ‘adventurous’ simply means likely to a various club on Fridays.”

“Or ingesting a bottle that is whole of rather than just a couple of shots!”

“Maybe this means he’s residing away from their vehicle?”

“So Roz, performs this imply that in the event the hobbies included hang gliding, playing Russian roulette and sampling wild mushrooms you’d have more dates?”

Of which point, a buddy with an increase of internet dating experience than me personally clued me personally in.

“In internet dating lingo,” she explained, “’adventurous’ means you’re up for taking part in the sort of intercourse — or viewing the type of porn — he’s into. It does not signify he likes doing brand new sex things. which he likes doing new things — simply”

Had been that basically real? If “adventurous” ensures that some guy would like to simply simply just take me personally on an extravagance journey across the world, I’m open to that. However, if all this means is he desires me personally to enjoy a particular sort of porn with him? I’m perhaps perhaps not certain that’s an adventure i wish to carry on.

I made a decision to consult my good pal Senior Sex Expert Joan Price. (Yes, there is really such a gig.) “What does it mean,that he wants a lady that is ‘adventurous?” I inquired, “when a guy states”

She laughed. “It probably means ‘I anticipate one to pole dance for me personally after which have actually loud first-date intercourse in the front yard of my ex-girlfriend’s home.’”

“Almost every thing men that are straight on online dating sites is — euphemistically — about sex,” agreed my pal Anne. “Any statement a man makes on Match.com must certanly be see the way that is same utilized to read through fortune snacks straight straight back once we had been in college — always add ‘in sleep’ to your end of each and every sentence!”

“I’m in search of a lady who’s that is adventurous bed.”

“i would like a true love that will share in life’s pleasures — in bed.”

“I’m looking towards getting to understand you better — in bed.”

It, as a mild-mannered librarian, I’m happy to enjoy adventures — as long as they’re in books when it comes right down to. By way of example, i really like reading Robert Parker secrets. They’re high in murder and weapon play and suspense. I like that stuff!

So long as I’m experiencing it vicariously through the printed page while sitting properly in the home sipping tea.

Perhaps within my online profile that is dating should begin discussing myself as “biblio-adventurous.”

I’m able to state that I’m searching for a biblio-adventurous man. A person who’d like nothing a lot better than quietly sitting while watching fire beside hitch TIPS me reading about adventure every evening.

For the time being, in your seamy erotic escapades if you’re a man in his 60s whose romantic ideal is a free-wheeling, risk-taking, AARP-aged librarian who’ll be happy to join you?

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